Who's your friend?

Is there anyone who doesn't have someone to call a "friend?" Even the brain-sick people includes a friend, aren't they? There's a saying "No man is an island" and yes, we have to agree with this citation. No human can live for him alone and thinks for himself alone. Everyone has to share and do something not just for himself.

Personally, I have a lot of friends but there's only a few of them which I can consider true and reliable but, that doesn't stop me from being a true friend to them also. I would like to share some personal stories about some types of friends that I have and I thought that anyone who'll read this can reflect on which kind of friend they are. You might not know, maybe, you are not as a "good friend" as you think you are.

A true friend wishes you well and wishes it for your own sake. Any objection on your mind after reading the cite? I hope there's none because if you do have a problem about it, then I'll tell you, you have a problem about yourself. A true friend is not selfish at all! Not at all! Well, anyway, here's the story: I have a friend and met him 9 years ago back on our high school days. He's always the cock-a-hoop guy for me and all the people around him but he became my friend and once I consider anyone as a friend, I consider it a lifetime commitment. I respect him despite of his natural annoying personality that often irritates me. We've been friends for long but he frustrates me a lot in times when we're on a difficult situation. Why? He always let me down and even murder my name in front of anyone. I don't know if it's his way of joking but the fact that the situation is not suited for a joke, why the hell would he do that? Initially, I would feel steamed and eager to biff him off but I thought of "Hey! I'm his friend. Why should I do that? What for? If I hit him, will it help? If I did, I will be just like him who doesn't value friendship on an upper-level." It's not me so, I'll be more understanding and treat him more like a friend. Now, it's up to him to realize the rest. Just like Jesus and Judas, be like Jesus all the time.

A friend is an inspiration, a guide, a supporter and a brother. Be there to support -always. Who knows when you'll need him? It's not always your friend that needs help, right? It's always a cycle, a contrariwise situation. Don't break that cycle. That's what friends are for. You were there for him and he's there for you, too.

Who's the person that brings out the best in you? It is your friend. No friend will ever bring you down. If someone did, believe me, he didn't considered you as his friend.

Nothing is a scary place when you're with your friends. Who wants to disagree with this? Then you have to disagree with all that I had said. Friends will put you up to your highest point of bravery and confidence.

A friend will come into your life and stay for good. True, isn't it? I've got a friend who never left my side. We've been through heaps of crap in our lives but friendship is still there and still strong and growing even more stronger. If you're reading this you know who you are, buddy! We made a lot of songs! Haha!

A friend in need is a friend indeed. I like this quote a lot. Why? Because it defines the core of friendship. Friendship is not just the good times but it's a commitment to share a part of your life to them. A friend who ask for your help is a real friend. They call it trust. If he ask for your help it means that he trust you. Right? And what does a true friend do? Always lends a hand.

A friend neglects your failures and bears up your success. Who had a friend who always looks into your failures? If you got one, tell him to look in the mirror. A friend will never let you down and will always be there to support you to the top.

Now, who's your friend?

-HDP_Paradiddle

The importance of the word: "Empathize"

A lot of people are arrogant and they can't admit it to themselves that they are.

I've met a lot of people who come and go and some had stayed in my life. People who, is like each and everyone of us, has their own life and beliefs. People to argue with and some to agree with.

Life is positivity and negativity, north and south, left and right, X and Y (Axis), Red and Blue and all that jazz. Life's always filled with contradictions and none among us are exactly the same specially when it comes to our own opinion. That's why we were taught to respect and understand each other in order to put balance in this world.

Difference is good but it could be much worse than anyone's nightmare. That's why there's war between countries and even on their own land they're exercising war; people between two or more factions fight for their beliefs forgetting what they were taught when they were young. Again, to respect and understand each other to put balance in our world.

Well, that's far too complicated to fix but there's one easier way, compared to that problem, to halt every misapprehensions between every man. It is called "Empathize." It starts within ourselves.

A man who lives in the ignorance of others lives in ignorance of himself. Try to dig on that quote. Try to understand every word and be serious about it. What do you perceive?

An example of this is in a debate-like situation. Two different beliefs clashing on a single situation. How do people deal with it? Instinctively, they rant to prove that they are right and their arguers are wrong. Well, that's egotistically right. Yes, EGO it is.

I'm not here to talk about ego anyway, but the word "understanding." Taking the given situation, it is hard to break someone's belief and it's hard to prove them that you are right. Right? Of course, you have to agree with me. Why? I have an answer to that... because you are like them.

Stating your opinion that way is like describing a painting with a blindfold covering your eyes. That is called -ignorance.

See, debating is not just proving them but it's also proving yourself what is logically and truthfully correct. Whenever someone takes a side with which you disagree, try to convey in your own words what you think your arguer is stating. Then ask that person if you had accurately stated his/her side. If he said NO then, it has to prove that you didn't understand him as well and vice versa. So, what's the point in arguing if both sides didn't actually understand the opposition's view? Useless conversation, right?

So, take time to step into their shoes. Understand them a lot. Speak for them. Then that's the time to think if you have to argue with them. If you practice empathy, you can understand others more amply, and you'll see that you are gaining a much clear and deep perception of a situation into your own mind.

-HDP_Paradiddle

Taking Down Nostalgia

Have you been in a situation like, you were starving just by thinking of your mom's home-cooked meal or any food that you haven't tasted for a long time? Yes, exactly! And I know how it feels, too!

Well, to start off, this write up has nothing to do with food actually. I was thinking of nostalgic situations that I've been through since June of two thousand and eight. It really is like missing all the goodies that your mom cooks in your home! That year was a major break-up for me and my girlfriend who, by far, is the woman I really look up to. Cutting off our relationship is genuinely hard for us, particularly for me because,I am so in-loved with her The fact that I had a jam-packed of dreams for our future during those critical times --that makes it more hurtful to me.

Our relationship was built in a gradual manner 'til we made it together and 'twas shattered in just one hell of a night. I can really compare it to an edifice from building to being demolished in just a matter of second.

After we broke up a lot of crazy stuffs went into my mind like, I was black-mailing her and all that stupid ideas that a heartbroken guy could ever think of just to get his woman back. It was tough that I even tried to kill myself just to escape the flooded emotions that's savaging my chest but, luckily, my conscience happen to pass by when I was holding the edge tool that's geared up to take my life in a slash.

Resentment has been some sort of my comforter that time that I thought of all the revenge I could have just to see her crawling with humiliation from all the people around her. Love turned into hate and hate turned into vengeance. I cried a lot every time I'm alone and I can still remember the last time I called her and begged for a last chance but she'd just dumped me like she knows how the hell I felt during those times. I had lost my desire to carry on. All hope is gone. As life goes on my yearning gets more and more filled everyday.

Seasons changed; pages turned; summer came and then gone. Time flies and lately I discovered myself getting fine. I did embraced that fact and even complimented myself for making it through. I know that my love for her has never left my heart but I know someday I will forget about her. I had fixed all the wrongs I've done by talking to her and explaining all in a modest way and she said that everything is good and she's not angry with me anymore. Well, I hope that's what her heart says.

As far as my part is concerned I did what is right and I think there's nothing wrong in erasing the mess I made. I was like a kid in a school who messed up the chalkboard but managed to erase it as well. That's the significance of this write up, it's okay to commit even the dumbest mistake but make sure to mend everything in the end. Life sucks maybe, but then, life is worth all the sh*t loads because without it we will never feel that we had WON.

-HDP_Paradiddle