Who's your friend?

Is there anyone who doesn't have someone to call a "friend?" Even the brain-sick people includes a friend, aren't they? There's a saying "No man is an island" and yes, we have to agree with this citation. No human can live for him alone and thinks for himself alone. Everyone has to share and do something not just for himself.

Personally, I have a lot of friends but there's only a few of them which I can consider true and reliable but, that doesn't stop me from being a true friend to them also. I would like to share some personal stories about some types of friends that I have and I thought that anyone who'll read this can reflect on which kind of friend they are. You might not know, maybe, you are not as a "good friend" as you think you are.

A true friend wishes you well and wishes it for your own sake. Any objection on your mind after reading the cite? I hope there's none because if you do have a problem about it, then I'll tell you, you have a problem about yourself. A true friend is not selfish at all! Not at all! Well, anyway, here's the story: I have a friend and met him 9 years ago back on our high school days. He's always the cock-a-hoop guy for me and all the people around him but he became my friend and once I consider anyone as a friend, I consider it a lifetime commitment. I respect him despite of his natural annoying personality that often irritates me. We've been friends for long but he frustrates me a lot in times when we're on a difficult situation. Why? He always let me down and even murder my name in front of anyone. I don't know if it's his way of joking but the fact that the situation is not suited for a joke, why the hell would he do that? Initially, I would feel steamed and eager to biff him off but I thought of "Hey! I'm his friend. Why should I do that? What for? If I hit him, will it help? If I did, I will be just like him who doesn't value friendship on an upper-level." It's not me so, I'll be more understanding and treat him more like a friend. Now, it's up to him to realize the rest. Just like Jesus and Judas, be like Jesus all the time.

A friend is an inspiration, a guide, a supporter and a brother. Be there to support -always. Who knows when you'll need him? It's not always your friend that needs help, right? It's always a cycle, a contrariwise situation. Don't break that cycle. That's what friends are for. You were there for him and he's there for you, too.

Who's the person that brings out the best in you? It is your friend. No friend will ever bring you down. If someone did, believe me, he didn't considered you as his friend.

Nothing is a scary place when you're with your friends. Who wants to disagree with this? Then you have to disagree with all that I had said. Friends will put you up to your highest point of bravery and confidence.

A friend will come into your life and stay for good. True, isn't it? I've got a friend who never left my side. We've been through heaps of crap in our lives but friendship is still there and still strong and growing even more stronger. If you're reading this you know who you are, buddy! We made a lot of songs! Haha!

A friend in need is a friend indeed. I like this quote a lot. Why? Because it defines the core of friendship. Friendship is not just the good times but it's a commitment to share a part of your life to them. A friend who ask for your help is a real friend. They call it trust. If he ask for your help it means that he trust you. Right? And what does a true friend do? Always lends a hand.

A friend neglects your failures and bears up your success. Who had a friend who always looks into your failures? If you got one, tell him to look in the mirror. A friend will never let you down and will always be there to support you to the top.

Now, who's your friend?

-HDP_Paradiddle

The importance of the word: "Empathize"

A lot of people are arrogant and they can't admit it to themselves that they are.

I've met a lot of people who come and go and some had stayed in my life. People who, is like each and everyone of us, has their own life and beliefs. People to argue with and some to agree with.

Life is positivity and negativity, north and south, left and right, X and Y (Axis), Red and Blue and all that jazz. Life's always filled with contradictions and none among us are exactly the same specially when it comes to our own opinion. That's why we were taught to respect and understand each other in order to put balance in this world.

Difference is good but it could be much worse than anyone's nightmare. That's why there's war between countries and even on their own land they're exercising war; people between two or more factions fight for their beliefs forgetting what they were taught when they were young. Again, to respect and understand each other to put balance in our world.

Well, that's far too complicated to fix but there's one easier way, compared to that problem, to halt every misapprehensions between every man. It is called "Empathize." It starts within ourselves.

A man who lives in the ignorance of others lives in ignorance of himself. Try to dig on that quote. Try to understand every word and be serious about it. What do you perceive?

An example of this is in a debate-like situation. Two different beliefs clashing on a single situation. How do people deal with it? Instinctively, they rant to prove that they are right and their arguers are wrong. Well, that's egotistically right. Yes, EGO it is.

I'm not here to talk about ego anyway, but the word "understanding." Taking the given situation, it is hard to break someone's belief and it's hard to prove them that you are right. Right? Of course, you have to agree with me. Why? I have an answer to that... because you are like them.

Stating your opinion that way is like describing a painting with a blindfold covering your eyes. That is called -ignorance.

See, debating is not just proving them but it's also proving yourself what is logically and truthfully correct. Whenever someone takes a side with which you disagree, try to convey in your own words what you think your arguer is stating. Then ask that person if you had accurately stated his/her side. If he said NO then, it has to prove that you didn't understand him as well and vice versa. So, what's the point in arguing if both sides didn't actually understand the opposition's view? Useless conversation, right?

So, take time to step into their shoes. Understand them a lot. Speak for them. Then that's the time to think if you have to argue with them. If you practice empathy, you can understand others more amply, and you'll see that you are gaining a much clear and deep perception of a situation into your own mind.

-HDP_Paradiddle