I've met a lot of people who come and go and some had stayed in my life. People who, is like each and everyone of us, has their own life and beliefs. People to argue with and some to agree with.
Life is positivity and negativity, north and south, left and right, X and Y (Axis), Red and Blue and all that jazz. Life's always filled with contradictions and none among us are exactly the same specially when it comes to our own opinion. That's why we were taught to respect and understand each other in order to put balance in this world.
Difference is good but it could be much worse than anyone's nightmare. That's why there's war between countries and even on their own land they're exercising war; people between two or more factions fight for their beliefs forgetting what they were taught when they were young. Again, to respect and understand each other to put balance in our world. Well, that's far too complicated to fix but there's one easier way, compared to that problem, to halt every misapprehensions between every man. It is called "Empathize." It starts within ourselves.
A man who lives in the ignorance of others lives in ignorance of himself. Try to dig on that quote. Try to understand every word and be serious about it. What do you perceive?
An example of this is in a debate-like situation. Two different beliefs clashing on a single situation. How do people deal with it? Instinctively, they rant to prove that they are right and their arguers are wrong. Well, that's egotistically right. Yes, EGO it is.
I'm not here to talk about ego anyway, but the word "understanding." Taking the given situation, it is hard to break someone's belief and it's hard to prove them that you are right. Right? Of course, you have to agree with me. Why? I have an answer to that... because you are like them.
Stating your opinion that way is like describing a painting with a blindfold covering your eyes. That is called -ignorance.
See, debating is not just proving them but it's also proving yourself what is logically and truthfully correct. Whenever someone takes a side with which you disagree, try to convey in your own words what you think your arguer is stating. Then ask that person if you had accurately stated his/her side. If he said NO then, it has to prove that you didn't understand him as well and vice versa. So, what's the point in arguing if both sides didn't actually understand the opposition's view? Useless conversation, right?
So, take time to step into their shoes. Understand them a lot. Speak for them. Then that's the time to think if you have to argue with them. If you practice empathy, you can understand others more amply, and you'll see that you are gaining a much clear and deep perception of a situation into your own mind.
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